Avoid Critical Critics

Like it or not, we all need people to offer advice and feedback. Part of this advice involves critiquing our plans and actions. Be careful who does this.

Good Criticism

By good criticism I do not mean just what we want to hear. In fact, there will be times when good critics offer advice that is not what we want to hear. That, however, is not the same as someone who just wants to be critical. Those who just want to be critical no matter what are what I mean by critical critics. Good criticism is offered by those who have a real interest in what we are trying to accomplish and seek to understand our efforts. They ask questions for clarity and admit when they cannot offer helpful advice on something. They do not, however, avoid saying things that need to be said even if we don’t like hearing them. They truly offer an honest critique rather than a stinging criticism. That means, however, that the critique may sometimes be a little painful for us, but it should be clear they have our best interest at heart.

Bad Criticism

Unlike someone who offers an honest, meaningful, and helpful critique, bad criticism frequently comes from those who are more concerned with themselves than someone they are “supposedly” critiquing. Their comments can be unnecessarily stinging and degrading. The critical critics we encounter may have very little comprehension of what we are doing and unwilling to ask questions to better understand. Your questions to these critics are often ignored or answered in a sarcastic manner. Basically, they are just negative people.

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Run Away

When you realize that the person offering a critique really has no real interest in providing genuinely helpful advice, run, don’t walk, away. Find someone who has a heart for helping others and will be honest with you rather than just be one of many critical critics who are in it to look smart. Incidentally, they don’t usually look smart but instead appear to be foolish.

Seek Out

So, knowing that you don’t know everything and can greatly benefit from the critiques of others, just be careful in whom you choose as an advisor. This applies to both paid and unpaid advisors. You may have an accountant or attorney or just a friend who advises you from time to time, but they need to be someone with whom you can have honest and meaningful conversations. Above all things, be certain they have high integrity, a sense of confidentiality, are knowledgeable in areas you need feedback, and really are interested in helping.

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